Seem Lost ?

So I guess it has happened to all of us where we start questioning ourselves What are you making out of our life ?

Are you happy with it ?

There might be a number of things that we want to do and perhaps the situations and circumstances are such that those things currently have to be kept aside. Yes guys we all get such "low". And this is quite normal as we have one life and yes we want to make the most out of it. Also considering the busy lives that we live where we are not even able to devote time for ourselves , it's a question to ask. 

It always comes to us. We always have a choice. Yes on one side we think of being a responsible person trying to fulfill our family expectations and make them happy, which is very mature and caring but there is always going to be some thing or the other that we will be missing out. And other side we have things which like things which make us happy , there is no wrong in going for that as well because it is practically impossible to keep on doing things which makes others happy and we not being happy at the end of the day. We have witnessed a number of famous personalities who have done that and been successful. Of course the latter one might always be risky but as it is said "no guts , no glory ". 

And here I'm in no intention to demotivate others but my simple point is that everything in life happens for a reason and it always makes us more mature than yesterday. So there might be times where we are out of answers , but time always takes it course and eventually we will find them. Yes life is a surely a complicated thing to live but it's more beautiful ahead if you remove the negativity and start dealing it very well.

We all falter, we are miserable at times , we act the worst to our loved ones (and yes you have every right to as they love you no matter what ) but there's always something more to us. We have indefinite strength and capabilities  , sometimes we just need to be reminded of that. So be patient , talk to people (yes don't get easily influenced also :p), hang out around the people who love and care for you , make out some time for yourself and you will definitely get back at life with a bang because you are " Special " and you have every right to be happy :)

Are you being yourself ?

I guess many of us have gone through this stage , some of them might be in this stage and while others are just doing fine. The situation of life that I'm talking about is the one where we all pretend to be something else than what we actually are.



No need to worry if you are in this stage as it is quite normal but matters to what extent you've taken it. The change in the behavior may be because of various reasons like to impress someone , to handle criticism , to prove something to yourself/others etc etc

So you must be thinking what's wrong in that ? Change for good is always good , isn't it ?
But the simple question we need to ask ourselves , that 
Are you happy at the end of the day ? 
Are you satisfied ?

As far as I can relate to my life , those people who love and respect me is for who I am. Yes people might have perceptions in the beginning ( We all do , don't we ? ) but that doesn't mean we are not good. We sometimes(most of the times) take feedback from the unnecessary , from those whose perception don't even matter to us but still negativity surrounds us. 

I think I've pretty much proved my point that " You should matter stuff only from those people that matter to you and NO one else.  "

Yes but that doesn't mean we should stop taking feedback from others. We always should take and welcome feedback and that too positively. Thus I like to sum it up by saying
"Always be who you are and try to highlight your positive points that your negative ones get hidden while working out towards them."

Feeling Lonely ?

Well admit it. You might that person full of life and others might adore you but at some point of life we all get that lonely feeling which most of us do not handle it quite well.

Stop listening to that sad music
Yes music can be a great mood buster but it can get us to that depressed feeling as well. And there are no less number of songs that give us that sad feeling. So at times when we are down it is important for us not to listen to such songs though they actually suit the moment and bring out our emotions.

Get out of that house
Loneliness of course catches us when we feel like we have no one around. So what ? There's always a thing called as self-time and what better than going out for some fresh air this time alone. And trust me you will actually feel better.

Don't keep idle
Loneliness doesn't strike us in a flash. It takes course of a time. Generally when we keeping a busy tight schedule there are very chances that we might get lonely as we are already occupied with something. Loneliness generally occurs in idle. Remember " An idle mind is a devils workshop " ? Yes, so it would be better if we keep ourselves occupies with some work or the other

Take up a social activity
Loneliness occurs when we have less people around and what better than taking up a social activity. Dance classes , cooking activity , some help to NGOs , Art etc. any activity you like (please women NO kitty party !)

Spend time with people who love you
Don't forget there's some one out there who actually loves you selflessly but you haven't paid much attention to it. They may be anyone. And the best thing that comes after bad times are the good times ! Remember We never would have been able to define happiness if we were always happy. Sadness is part of life we cannot escape but yes we can definitely overcome it faster and better :)

"Expectation" - The famous word

So we often hear from friends,family and people around us that "don't expect". But why so ? Is it because we don't want to get hurt ? Or may be We have already got and now have become more conscious to get close to someone very easily ?

Let's go back to our school days. Well I was an average student in my class getting occasionally decent marks. And like every student even I liked to get appreciated and motivated by my teachers. And whenever my grades weren't good enough, my teachers and parents were very disappointed. Does that mean that they shouldn't have expected much from me as ultimately they were disappointed ?
Well the answer is of course NO !!
Infact I would have felt very insulted and unmotivated by the fact that they didn't expect much from me. And all in all it helped me to improve over every next time. I genuinely thank them for that :)

This is the same scenario in our lives also as we grow up. If any of my close one lets me know that they are happy with me as they do not expect much from me, it is very insulting to me! It simply makes me question myself.

Yes , I do agree that each and everyone of us are going to get hurt but that doesn't mean we stop expecting. It would be very disheartening to realize that some of them wouldn't stand by us from whom we do expect the most to come from ! But on the other hand it would also be a very joyous and proud moment to know that some of them have actually stood up by us leaving besides their priorities and making us one !! Realize those people in your life before they are gone. It has always been human tendency to chase for love from whom you least get it. It has been the case with you as well , isn't it ?!  We do not value the love that we seldomly get it unless we finally stop getting love from them as well ! Yes that is something is not going to change. Though it would be better if we realize the importance of their love. 

Over the time i have realized that life is more beautiful when you love those people who love you back more than you love them. (Yes please read it twice if you didn't get it in first time ! Its a beautiful line! )
So i do agree with Shakespeare's quote " Expectation is the root of all heartache" but by any sense it is not going to stop me from expecting any less from my life !
 So let's count actually from whom do we really expect ?! And yes if you do, go ahead and let them know !!

"The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they're alive."